Monday, May 25, 2020

My me time

It’s no secret that being a parent is the hardest job on the planet. Anyone who doesn’t agree with that has never been through teething, tantrums, sleepless nights, colds or the never-keep-still stage. What makes it hard is the sheer importance and magnitude of raising a child to become a successful human being. It’s not like you can call in sick, (for those of you who have watched the latest Nyquil ads) or have a “do-over”, take things back or change the way you did certain things. No, you can’t go back. Everyone has one shot to do their best. That’s what makes parenting so unique. Doing your best is the only outcome you can hope for, because no one is perfect. We all have shortcomings. The thankful part is that children are resilient, and there is more than one way to do things. Like the inspirational, Maya Angelou said, “When you know better, you do better”.

So, with all this pressure to do things to the best of your abilities, you have to be able to be OK with that notion, and make sure you don’t lose yourself in the process — that all starts by having the will and desire to have “me time”. Over the next few weeks, I want to encourage my readers and parents to dare to have me time. Celebrate it by posting a photo to our Facebook page and your Instagram, tag us @babybito with #mymetime. So for those of you who may be curious as to how I manage to have #mymetime, I’ll tell you:

— Long, hot showers are my go-to when I need a time out. It’s one of the few places that I am alone, so I take advantage of this. I find it clears my thoughts, calms me down, helps me focus, and I even get some of my best ideas there.

— Coffee time. I am definitely more of a coffee drinker, although tea (and a cookie) in the afternoon is very comforting to me.

— Reading a book is something I do to force my thoughts in a different direction or to relax. I love to read. I read online stories, blogs and books. If I’m feeling negative, I grab a Paulo Coelho book, or T.D. Jakes’ book, “Instinct”. Those are some of my favorites, but anything that will re-focus me on the ultimate goal, I run to.

— Taking a walk by the ocean. There is something so calming about water. It’s essential for life in so many different ways. We are blessed to be able to see water whenever we want. So many people in the world never see what we see every day — crystal clear, turquoise waters. We are so lucky. Walking by the ocean is definitely a #mymetime moment for me.

— Writing is my newfound #mymetime moment. I have to write every week, but I have actually found that I love to write. I write all the time now — for myself, for my kids. I have almost a constant dialogue in my head about what I should write about. And, actually, as a young girl, I wanted to be a writer. Now I get to fulfill one of my dreams by writing to you guys every week. I hope you love reading my articles as much as I love writing them.

I encourage you to find the time to take #mymetime. Find something you like to do that also recharges you and makes you happy. I can’t wait to see your photos of what you do to have #mymetime. I’m going to post my photos too.

Love and hugs.


• Bianca Carter is a certified lactation counselor (CLC), and founder of Bun in the Oven. For more information, give us a call at 601-6977 or visit us at the Harbour Bay Shopping Plaza, next to Starbucks. Follow us on facebook at babybunintheoven, email us at [email protected], visit us at


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