Can you learn to be charismatic?
Charisma is defined as a mysterious, indefinable charm or attractiveness that inspires devotion in others. It was believed it is a divinely conferred characteristic, either you were born with it or you weren’t. Some people were blessed with it and the rest of us missed out. However, though it is true some people came to the planet with charming personalities, you will find the qualities of one born with this magnetizing attractiveness can be deconstructed. If you were not born with natural charm, charisma is an interpersonal skill, like any other, that can be practiced and developed.
Here are just a few ways to increase your personal magnetism:
Appreciate yourself. “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Giving yourself love and attention is important to enhancing your personal magnetism, because when you feel good about yourself, it is easy to feel good about others. Be aware of your own gifts, talents and abilities. Know your flaws and weaknesses. We should always be working toward self-improvement, however understanding no one is perfect, including you, can help you to be less judgmental of others. Being grateful for, and confident of, your unique strengths, kills the spirit of comparison and jealousy. It gives you the ability to have genuine appreciation for others. It is hard to dislike someone who appreciates you.
Pay attention to other people. Time and time again, people report after meeting Barak Obama they couldn’t believe how important he made them feel. He is known to focus on the person he is talking to as if they are the only person in the room, even though he was the president of the United States. I had a similar experience that influenced the way I felt about someone within seconds of meeting them. I remember being introduced to a high-level executive at a famed organization. Her reputation preceded her, and in my mind, she had the mystic of the Wizard of Oz. One day I was taken to her office. She stopped what she was doing, stood up, extended her hand and gave me her undivided attention for a few minutes. I did not expect to be made to feel so significant by someone who was so important.
Introduce everyone as if they are a superstar. When you introduce people, be sure to verbalize some of their extraordinary characteristics and accomplishments. When given the opportunity to present someone, it is your chance to make two people feel like a million dollars. This goes a long way in how they in turn feel about you.
Train yourself to see the positive in every situation. Life is challenging enough without always pointing out the negatives. We can choose the way we see the world. Negativity is an energy drain. When we are in the presence of a pessimist, we must resist the temptation of allowing them to pull us down; the experience can be physically draining. However, positive, optimistic people energize us.
Be authentic. Love yourself, own your person and work to be the best version of you. Being authentic does not mean it is okay to spew your destructive venom or oppress others with your negative vibes. Being authentic is about magnifying your best, to serve the world in a way only you can.
Yes, you can choose to enhance your personal charisma. My signature courses help professionals to develop what I call professional charisma, which is the ability to convey you are confident, competent and likeable. These are the communication skills that add ease to success in business and the workplace. Email me to find out how I can help you or your organization.
- Kim Welcome is the CEO of Influential Voice. A communication trainer and coach, she assists businesses and professionals to achieve their goals by helping them to develop deliberate, skillful, polished communication skills. Contact: firstname.lastname@example.org or call 242-225-9013.