Sexy or nasty?
The Bahamas appears to be a part of a global trend in reducing the amount of clothes that women wear in public. Of course each of us have a right to do what we want to do but as I view what is happening I am forced to ask myself what exactly is the point? I have been forced to ask myself the question, what is the purpose of clothes?
I am assuming the purpose of clothes is for us to cover what would be considered private parts and to make ourselves look presentable and fashionable. We want to look good and at the same time not reveal parts of our bodies that would be considered private. This makes sense to me as we do certain things in private because it is not reasonable to do so in public. For example, when we are ready to take a shower we do not go into our backyards or front yards for the entire neighborhood to view, because some things are designed to be private. If this is logical then why are women in particular attempting to act like there are no private parts and that it makes sense to expose what would be considered private in public.
Some would say they are just trying to be sexy. If that is the case, then sexy is related to sex and sex should be a private affair where you expose yourself to your husband or wife in a setting where sex is going to take place. If sex is not going to take place, why are sexual organs being revealed in public? Who benefits from this? Is it helpful to our young people or does it lead to the lowering of standards and increased sexual activity among our young population? Does it cause them to feel this is a normal practice? Is it really sexy or is it nasty? In my opinion it is nasty because the level of exposure I see is totally unnecessary.
What I am seeing today is not decent and seems to be a part of a trend where we see women revealing more and more. This may escalate to the point where women may eventually walk around totally nude in public, for what purpose I do not know. Some may say this will never happen and I used to think that way but the pursuit of public exposure and indecency seems to be losing bounds. I truly wonder how far it will go. I feel like it is indecent and unnecessary and as a diplomat representing a King and government, I would like to remind all of the admonitions of my government. According to my government’s constitution, women are required to be decent and modest in public. There is nothing wrong with being fashionable as long as private parts are covered and your apparel is decent. 1 Timothy 2:8-10 8 I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; 9 in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and [a]moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10 but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.
I have no problem with fashion, and I love to see women well dressed. Be decent and reasonable in the way you dress and act in public. We may be inadvertently or intentionally raising the level of debauchery, sexual promiscuity and indecency yet saying we want to have more responsible young people and we want to lower the rates of HIV and sexually transmitted diseases. Being nasty does not help or inspire decency and responsibility in our young men and women.
Men are naturally sexually aggressive and the presence of testosterone causes men to be stimulated by sight, on sight and all the time. I know because I used to be one of those men who pursued sex as a full-time occupation and chased skirts. I discovered over time that the number one need of a male is sex, but the number one need of a man is God. If a male never finds God then he spends his life pursuing sex. For me, I only began treating women differently after I discovered the purpose of sex and realized that in the context of marriage I could satisfy my sexual desires without harming others by having “one wifey for lifey”.
My point here is to share a kingdom perspective on this issue. We hear opinions all the time from a variety of people but seldom hear the kingdom perspective. I believe my perspective carries weight because I have the results to back it up. #resultsmatter. I am a part of a group of men and women who used to be indecent and irresponsible who are now leading responsible lives. I love fashion and so does my wife. I believe we should look good but by the same token I believe we should be decent. I do not see what purpose the public exposure of private parts and the public simulation of sex serves, other than to further erode our values and produce a more profane generation who are being victimized and prevented from experiencing effective longlasting relationships that are based upon fundamental principles of respect, dignity and value. Perhaps we should reconsider public behavior and seek to be fashionable but decent rather than nasty.
- Pastor Dave Burrows is senior pastor at Bahamas Faith Ministries International. Feel free to email comments, whether you agree or disagree, to firstname.lastname@example.org. I appreciate your input and dialogue. We become better when we discuss, examine and exchange.