Pastor: Be, do, give
The membership at Bahamas Harvest Church were encouraged to consider their ways in 2019 as church senior pastor Mario Moxey hosts a four-week “New Year New Me” series, during the first of which he encouraged them to at the start of this year, evaluate themselves, set guardrails, goals, and to look at strategic partnerships to help them become successful.
Moxey said the “New Year New Me” series is to create a narrative amongst the membership moving forward so that they can have healthy lives as they focus on their being, doing and giving.
Haggai 1: 5-7 which reads: “Now this is what the Lord Almighty says: Give careful thought to your ways. You have planted much, but harvested little. You eat, but never have enough. You drink, never have your fill. You put on clothes, but are not warm. You earn wages, only to put them in a purse with holes in it,” anchored the message
Moxey urged church members to consider their ways. He told them that God is challenging them at this time and referenced the Bible where the people delayed in building the Temple of the Lord, but lived in luxurious houses and he said to them, that they were taking care of themselves, but neglecting him.
He told them that God wants his people to take care of themselves, but to also focus on him and make him priority and that doing both is doable.
“God has no issue with anyone taking care of themselves and living prosperously. The issue comes when we neglect God. So, when we look at this from a spiritual perspective, what God is saying is you need to catch yourselves. You can’t put all of your energy, and all of your time and all of your resources on you, and neglect me,” said Moxey. “God is trying to get us to understand that we can’t be so me focused and there is a need to consider every aspect of our lives, not just our material lives, but every aspect of our lives.”
Being busy people, he said they can consider their ways by evaluating their life; establishing guardrails; setting goals and securing partners.
And that having to look introspectively at themselves he said will by far be the most challenging thing they will ever have to do in your life.
“We can see everybody else’s issues and everybody else’s problems with 20/20 vision. We have no issue identifying and psychoanalyzing everybody else’s deal. But we don’t look introspectively. We don’t look internally. We have blind spots. There are things that we just don’t see about us no matter how hard we try. It’s challenging to see our blind spots, because we are enthralled many of us, by ourselves. We love ourselves. We are the best thing to hit Planet Earth since sliced bread – we’re all that and a bag of chips. But if you’re insecure, we tend to defend our blind spots. Whenever someone brings it to our attention, we don’t say ‘thank you for bringing our attention to that because I didn’t know it was like that’, but now that you mention it I’ll have to look at that. When someone brings it to our attention, we cut their head off. The reality of it is we can’t see our blind spots. You would think we would be grateful when someone says to us ‘you know what, you’re a really moody person.’”
Moxey also urged them to stop comparing themselves with other people. And that everyone has their own race to run, their own issues and their own trials. He said everyone has different things to deal with in life.
Establishing guardrails in life he said are also important. He told them they establish the quality of life a person will have as they influence people’s behavior, tells the world who they are and not just what they do.
He questioned them as to what they valued more – character or currency. And said that whatever they valued more is where they’re going to place as higher priority.
“You have no guardrails, currency is going to trump character every single time.”
He shared some of his personal guidelines with church members which include never engaging in a conversation that he wouldn’t want his wife to hear the audio recording of it; he’s never alone in a room with a female with the door closed; doesn’t allow females to ride in the front seat of his car, other than his wife, daughters and his mom; and he always says thank you – even for the least of things he receives as a guardrail to protect him from an entitlement mentality. And he says he’s honest to a fault, even if it hurts him.
“One of the most responsible things you can do for yourself in 2019 is to establish some guardrails. It’s one of the most responsible things you can do in your life.”
Setting goals, he said, helps people to focus on what they have predetermined is important in their life as there is an automatic focus that comes once that’s done. At the same time he said goalsetting is also one of the most dangerous things a person can do, because they’ll do whatever they have to do to accomplish that goal. As a result, a person should never establish goals without first establishing guardrails.
“If you start establishing goals without guardrails, you can easily get yourself in trouble.
“The benefits of goalsetting provides direction you need to go in life and eliminates all the other distractions; it also gives you optimum use of your resources so you know how to use your resources and you spend it on your goal, and effective use of your time which is one of the most important, most precious commodity that you have. And it gives you clearer focus on what’s important in your life. Every decision is filtered through your goal because you’ve already set a path and determined what your future is going to look like.”
Goalsetting provides motivation and gives a person a purpose, he said.
“So you get up every morning with an agenda; everyone who wakes up in the morning and doesn’t have an agenda is wasting time.”
Whatever their goals are for this year he told them to make sure they’re smart goals.
“There is something God wants you to accomplish, and we’re going to make sure you accomplish what God wants you to accomplish,” said Moxey.
But he reminded them that goals have to be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-based. And that they owe it to themselves to establish some goals.
“Small disciplines done consistently lead to big results over time.”
And whatever they want to accomplish in life, he said they shouldn’t attempt to do it alone. He told them to secure partners as everyone needs partners in life – people who can assist and support.
“We all need partners. Having someone in your corner fuels your growth engine.
“That’s why small groups are so important in our church. People’s lives are different when they’re out of small group semester. Your life is a lot different when you’re in group. When we have these breaks in between semesters, we can’t wait for small groups to get started again. That’s healthy, because we recognize we need that. You leverage the strength of others to compensate for your own weakness and we’re a fool if we think we don’t have any weakness, any blind spots. We do. That’s why we need other people to help us.”
Moxey said people need that friend in their life who can be painfully truthful and brutally honest. That person that won’t be impressed with you, and isn’t trying to get anything from you. A person who, he said, really cares about you. He said if a person doesn’t have that kind of friend they’re robbing themselves.
“We all need partners in this journey that we’re on. Our destiny is too challenging to do it solo.”
Seven aspects of life that are also important were that they should consider this year is their spiritual life, which he said is the most important one as eternity is coming and they have to prepare for eternity; as well as mental; financial; relational; physical; occupational in terms of competency; and ecclesiastical (church).
Shavaughn was appointed as the Lifestyles Editor a few years later.
Education: Saint Augustine’s College, BA in Mass Communication