How to get clear on what you want
Imagine yourself in a race in which you, the runner, take off full of energy and enthusiasm. Intent on winning, for the first few moments you enjoy the breeze in your face and the feeling of progress. However, after a while you think ahead to the finish line, and wonder how far it is. Then you wonder exactly where it is and realize that you have no idea. In your excitement to get going and win, you never thought to get a map.
Steve Maraboli, author and writer, says, “It’s a lack of clarity that creates chaos and frustration. Those emotions are poison to any living goal.”
Clarity comes from having a strong mental image of your preferable future – it’s your SMI.
Strong clarity in the minds of people is extremely rare and there lies the problem. We want success, we want to win but we are not clear on exactly what that means.
This clarity of vision is an absolute prerequisite for success, however, you define it. “No matter who you are, if your vision of success isn’t clear, this busy world will distract you by everything in it.” – Dr. Myles Munroe.
In my opinion the following three statements are true:
• People stay on jobs they hate or and/or fail in their entrepreneurial pursuits because they don’t have a strong mental image of their preferable future.
• When you’ve gotten clarity, you’ve gotten what you want.
• If you desire to achieve any significant and continuous level of success in life, having a strong mental image is the first step. This takes answering three questions:
Question 1: Who are you in the world? This is the clarity and connection to your inner leader. Many have not yet discovered their unique leadership role in the world and have unfortunately become what other people want them to become. They take labels from others without really considering who they uniquely are or truly want to be. To resolve this, give yourself a label. Labels are really powerful — if you choose the right one. It doesn’t have to be grand or unique at this first stage but it must clearly define who you are or want to be. This is not a job title per se. Your label could simply say, “I am the writer” or “I am a trainer” or “I am an entrepreneur”. Start by jotting down everything that comes to mind then narrow it down to no more than three. This is your core. Everything you do or want to do in life should resonate with these three.
Question 2: What value and attraction do you bring to everyone you serve? While question number 1 helps you to get clear on how you see yourself and want to be in the world, this question helps you to get clear on how the world sees you. It is what you bring to the table and how you bring it. What makes you intensely valuable to others? What is your signature value? What makes you most engaging to others? What makes you stand out? What is your style of writing or teaching that is unique to you? What vary can you promise to people? Is it unmistakable? When you find your value and attraction to others you can easily articulate and amplify them, to your advantage.
Question 3: What path are you on toward your vision? The most motivated person in the world will lose momentum without the certainty of where they are going and how they will get there. What is your strategy, who do you need on your team? How do you apply yourself within your plan? According to Roger Hamilton, the author of Your Life, Your Legacy, “the men (and women) who have succeeded are those who have chosen one line and stuck to it”. When it comes to success, there is a path that is already set before us. The confusion comes when we don’t know which path to follow. Consider the many people who have achieved success in their career or business. Who do we listen to and whose principles of success should you follow? According to Hamilton, making sense of the many approaches to success and wealth creation can be compared to the making of different games on ESPN. Each has different rules, different team, and different strategies. Only by understanding the games can we listen to the soccer player say “kick the ball, don’t pick it up”, and the basketball player say “pick up the ball, don’t kick it”, and realize that they aren’t contradicting each other. They are simply playing different games. Each of us has a path that is most suited to our natural talents and habits. Success in life comes from clarity. Clarity comes from knowing which game to play and then playing that game.
Your strong mental image comes when the answers to these questions are given. The answers may take some time and guidance but will make all the difference in the race toward your vision of success. Interested in digging deeper into this topic? I’m thrilled to announce my upcoming summer program “Mindset, Money and Making it Real” – a four-week coaching course on how to set good goals and get what you want. For more information, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
• Keshelle is a multi-award-winning entrepreneur, corporate and business trainer and the chief executive officer of the Training Authority. She is the former executive director of the Bahamas Chamber of Commerce, Chamber Institute and an internationally recognized speaker and author. A leading expert in corporate training, technology performance and entrepreneurship, she has helped thousands of people fulfill their vision, obtain mastery and become more productive in their lives. To comment on the article or join her list for free monthly training tips, email email@example.com.