The phrase “the Lord told me to tell you” is perhaps one of the most overused, misused and abused phrases in the Christian world. Other phrases such as “God gave me a vision for you…”, “I have a prophecy about you…” or “I have a message from the Lord for you…” are equally popular misused ones by many zealous pastors and often church members to control or mislead others. The truth is, the persons using them are not deliberately misleading or trying to control. They honestly believe that their “visions” or “messages” are from the Lord, when in reality, they are a result of a toxic faith and misguided understanding of how the Holy Spirit works in the lives of individuals.
Let me hasten to say it is my belief God can reveal himself through visions and dreams. He can give special messages through someone to give to another. However, His messages are always in keeping with biblical truths. They do not conflict. They are not confusing, demeaning, or destructive. Isaiah 10:24 states simply: “To the law and to the testimony, if they speak not according to this word, it is because there is no light in them.”
Several years ago, I was told of a woman who was married four times. After a long life of self-destruction and four divorces, she felt hopeless and emotionally weak. This was when, late one night, she walked into a church where people were singing beautiful hymns. The singers seemed so kind, caring and spiritual. After an inspiring sermon by the pastor, an appeal was made and she gave her heart to Jesus to begin the journey of spiritual renewal.
It was really a new beginning for her until the pastor got “a vision from the Lord” to reveal to her. It was just one week after her conversion, while attending a church service, that the pastor came to her and said, “The Lord gave me a vision that you are to marry that man,” pointing to a gentleman. She became friendly with this gentleman. She trusted the pastor. Of course, the pastor is a man of God, why doubt him, she thought to herself.
As a result of that “prophetic revelation” this dear lady, not realizing her own vulnerability, got married to that man within two months. This became her fifth marriage and his fourth. Common sense would dictate that preparation for marriage takes time. In addition, even though they were both Christians, it does not mean they were made for each other to become husband and wife. But who would disagree with the pastor; he got a “vision” from the Lord.
The pastor did say he got a vision from the Lord. Sad to say, “the Lord” did not tell the pastor of the terrible, abusive past of the man. Was it really the “Lord” or rather the pastor’s own toxic faith misguiding his over-imaginative thoughts? Within one week of the wedding ceremony, the marriage began to deteriorate. There was verbal, emotional and sometimes physical abuse. But how could they question “the Lord” when He gave the pastor the message to give them? So, they sat there in their marriage, boiling in pain, hate and confusion.
But two months into the marriage, the “Lord” could not stand it any longer. They were in too much pain. Then the pastor’s wife got a “vision from the Lord” to give to the husband. She said “the Lord told me to tell you to divorce your wife and to marry another woman”. What “vision” was from the Lord – the pastor’s or his wife’s? How could God give such conflicting instructions? I hasten to say that God does not give such instructions. His messages are encouraging, clear, consistent and non-conflicting. It seems as though the pastor and his wife were having the conflicts themselves. Each was on an ego trip for pastoral power and popularity. They used the scripture as a tool to gain prominence, and in reality, they were making a mockery of Christianity.
This story is only an example of what goes on every day in our country behind the doors of many churches. It is an example of toxic leaders who have developed a toxic brand of Christianity that is destroying our nation, many marriages and families. It is playing right into the hand of power-crazed men who have been taught that they are, by default, leaders over women and not leaders with them.
Beware, friends, when someone tells you “the Lord told me to tell you” or “the Lord gave me a vision about you”. If what “the Lord” said is in conflict with your faith and scripture, then the Lord did not give that message. It is instead from another source that leads to toxic faith, cripples, confuses and often leads many to become disillusioned with God.